Fear – def: be afraid or feel anxious or apprehensive about a possible or probable situation or event.
Fear is not real, but thought to be real by the beholder. As the definition suggests, it is the apprehension about a ‘possible’ or ‘probable’ situation or event. What we think about becomes and if we are thinking of negative thoughts, we are likely to get just that – a negative event. Fear is driven by low self-esteem and therefore leads to unworthiness and undeservedness. In our chiropractic office in West Fargo, ND, we ask what holds you back from achieving all that is possible?
- Do you think about what other people think? I learned this a few years ago from my coach and maybe it will help you. She said, “It is none of your business what anyone thinks about you.”
- What if I say or do something that I shouldn’t have? If so, recognize it and learn from that situation.
- What if I fail? Successful people fail more often than they succeed. If we are scared of failures, we will never success.
- What if I succeed? This is the most common fear. Learn to embrace it!!!
The first step in overcoming your fear is to acknowledge it and break it down to discover what you really are afraid of. Then ask yourself, “What could be the worst thing that may happen?” Once you determine this important step, you will set forth conquering it.
I first met Benjamin (Baby Ben) five weeks ago at our office in West Fargo, ND. He was 3 months old at the time and was a sad, frustrated, irritable, discontent baby. He was in pain. He was not doing the ‘normal’ things happy babies do. The first hour of our time together, I caught a sneak peak on what that family has been struggling through since he was born, but was getting worse. Instead of being held like a baby (in a rocking position), the only comfortable place (for a few minutes) was to be straight up and down. He did not act like an infant – his arms and legs were rigid, his stomach hard, yet his head wasn’t strong enough to be held on its own. He wasn’t sleeping, had colic for 8-10 hours in the day (and getting worse), and was discontent in all activities.
I will never forget that first day – the pain of this sweet, innocent boy; the endless love and concern of his beautiful mother; and the mother’s knowing that little Baby Ben could get better and be happier. By the time the nerve scan was complete, he had been screaming for 30 minutes and was sweating. It was heartbreaking.
I gave the mother a brief synopsis of the stress on his nervous system, and it was completely evident why he was in pain. His nervous system was taxed severely. His mother saw the scan and cried. Although she knew she was in the right place, there are no words to describe the pain a mother and father feel when their child is hurting. All I could do was hug her and reassure her that Baby Ben’s body was going to heal. She was happy, yet devastated on the reality of the situation. This was the first introduction to chiropractic for this family – and wow, how it has changed their life.
The second visit was the similar. He cried for over an hour straight and was sweating by the time they left. Yet this time, he got adjusted – and their lives would never be the same after that first adjustment.
To bring this story to the present, we had his re-evaluation yesterday and as we were talking, she told me that after the first appointment (5 weeks ago), she went home to tell her husband of her experience and the initial stress scan results, and they sat and cried. As we completed the scan at the re-evaluation (which Baby Ben didn’t cry through), the results were absolutely astounding! After an intense series of adjustments over the last 5 weeks, 95% of the stress in his nervous system was gone and his function had been restored! When removing the subluxations (interference to the nervous system), his body was able to heal. Not only did his body heal, but his family’s life also changed forever. This time there were tears – but tears of complete joy and gratitude.
Thank you…to Baby Ben, his mommy and daddy and big brother for allowing me to be a part of your life. Once again, a miracle witnessed…and I am forever grateful for you.
What’s in your medicine cabinet? I grew up with a medicine cabinet comprised of aspirin, Tylenol, robitussin, pepto bismol, cortisone cream – basically any anti-bacterial, anti-viral, anti-microbial pill, lotion or potion. That was what I knew to be ‘wellness’. I didn’t know that those medicines were treating the symptom and not the cause of the symptom. Only until about 7 years ago, did I think more in depth about how those pills, potions and lotions were affecting the body. Over the course of the last years, my wellness cabinet consists of:
Essential oils
Lavender – soothing properties; relax your body and mind for sleep, soothes cuts, scrapes
Peppermint – reduces motion sickness, reduces stomach pain/improves bowel function, energizes your mind and body, opens sinus passages and improves congestion
Thieves/immune support – anti-viral, antiseptic properties help protect the body from the onset of flu, candida, cold, etc. It may also help with lung dysfunction, such as bronchitis, peneumonia, coughs, etc.
Vitamins and supplements
Multivitamin and mineral supplements
Fish oil
Flax seed (oil or ground)
Antioxidants – Vitamin A, B, C, D, E, K
Echinacea
The question to ask is, “Is this treatment or recommendation addressing the underlying cause of my problem?” If not, keep searching for answers through a holistic minded individual. If so, you’re on the right track!
You may be thinking, “What is she talking about?!?!”
If your best friend were to talk to you like you talk to yourself, would you like him/her? It is important to become aware of you – what you say, what you do, what makes you say and do things. The more aware we are in life, the more we will see opportunity to improve ourselves and everyone around us.
Now, you may be thinking, “How do I start taking the steps to talk nice to myself like I would a best friend?” Awareness is the initial step to this process and is the catalyst for personal growth.
“Love yourself, for if you don’t, how can you expect anybody else to love you?”
This process takes some time, which is why this is called a ‘process’ and not an ‘event’. The first thing I would encourage you to do is to Write a Love Letter to Yourself. In this letter, write everything that you like about yourself. After listing the character traits, write all of your talents and skills. Continue with your desires and what you’ve always wanted to do. In this letter or inventory, you are ONLY to focus on what you love about yourself. You will be amazed on how many GOOD things there are to focus on! This exercise is to minimize the negative thinking and move your thoughts towards positivity, optimism and growth. Optimists are always looking for the positive in every situation, the opportunity in every problem, while pessimists tend to look for the down side and the problem in every opportunity. While writing this letter, you will be amazed at how extraordinary you really are.
Take a big step towards self-fulfillment. The first step is to DECIDE. Please send me any exciting news and updates, via this blog or visit us at our chiropractic office in West Fargo, ND. I would love to be a part of your growth.
Have you ever analyzed how a person carries him or herself? Have you ever walked behind someone in the grocery store who has poor posture? Do they look happy? Is their life fulfilled? Do they stand upright with their shoulders back and chest open or do they bend forward at the waist with shoulders rolled forward? Do they hold their head horizontal to the ground or do they look down at the ground? Do they smile? Do they make eye contact? Do they walk briskly or slowly, shuffling their feet?
Which person are you? Which person do you want to be? Have you surrounded yourself with people who can get you there?
A great purpose statement is one that inspires you so that you can affect countless others. It will open a path to love and happiness. It will bring joy into your days, weeks, months and years. It is a necessary component to creating your best life.
Define your values. What do you want to live for? (God, Love, Happiness, Wealth, Service, Family, Freedom)
Define your endeavors. What’s your plan? What’s your priority?
Who can you help by creating and living by this purpose? Whose lives will be improved?
Other questions that may help you in getting to the answer:
What have been your greatest moments of happiness or fulfillment?
What activities are of most worth in your personal and professional life?
What talents and capabilities do you have or want to have?
What core values make up your belief system?
Review what you’ve written. If what you’ve written makes you cry, you are on the right track. If not, KEEP GOING!!!!!!
“You must begin to think of yourself as becoming the person you want to be.” ~David Viscott
